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Erectile Dysfunction & Your Partner

Erectile Dysfunction is a great threat to a man's whole existence that challenges his self esteem and his conjugal happiness. He suffers severe depression and anxiety at this point of life and the stressed married life aggravates the situation. Men react in a different way when affected by depression then women, because men hate to come to an agreement with their weaknesses. Repeated Failure to get an erection sufficient for an intercourse or problem in sustaining an erection long enough to complete an intercourse is called impotency in men. And the fear of such a condition in a man’s life can turn his life to hell and he can be an easy prey to the devil depression. But erectile dysfunction is not a taboo any longer and there are medications available for it now. What you need to do is, come out of the dark cave of hopelessness and ask for help from your partner and then from your doctor. You need to communicate with your partner or your wife, and trust me, that will solve half of your problems.

Let us see what happens when you do not discuss your erectile issues with your wife;

• She will know that you are no more interested in having sex with her.
• She will deduce that you no longer find her attractive and you hate her.
• She may also confuse herself further by trying to find out the reason; is there something abhorrent about her?
• And the most dangerous fear for a woman, there is another woman in your life, and you are having an affair, will overpower her.
• Some of them even retaliate by having an affair themselves out of anger and frustration.
• There are chances that she may think you have changed your preference and you have become a gay. (Funny! But true)
• At last she may ask you for a divorce.

Concealing the facts about your ED to your wife may seriously affect your relationship. Your wife will feel unwanted which will cause depression in her as well. So, take your wife into your confidence and then you see how supportive she will be for you. This will increase the level of intimacy while going through treatment for ED.

Now, how will you tell her? This is really tough for a man, to talk about his ED, to his woman. But you need her support in this and no one else will be as supportive as her. Try the following opening lines…

• I need to tell you about a problem I am facing…
• In fact during the last few months/weeks/days, I am feeling a bit troubled by my sex organs/private parts…
• I am not able to make love/ get a proper erection…
• I want to do something about it and I would need your support in this.

After delivering the news about your ED, you need to reassure her that she is not the reason for the problem; you love her and find her attractive even now. Tell her that you are going to seek doctor’s help and there is successful treatment for ED. Convey her with determination that you are going to be alright and you can do it with her help and get back to your normal life.

There is no doubt about the fact that erectile dysfunction strains your marital relationship. There are chances that both of you may show signs frustration and stress by keeping distance between each other. You may isolate yourself from the family and friends and your spouse, and your wife may do the same. This is not a desired situation where both of you suffer under pressure and become a victim of depression. Rather ask for help immediately to save your marriage and your life. There are counseling and psychological therapies available for you and your partner for providing good support.

While you are suffering from erectile dysfunction, please do not suffer silently behind a closed door. If you want to treat you ED, make sure that you have discussed everything with your wife and your doctor, they have strong roles to play.